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Humans are meaning-making machines. Nothing “out t Humans are meaning-making machines. Nothing “out there” has meaning until we give it meaning. Logotherapy - the study of meaning by Dr. Viktor Frankl- teaches us that we derive meaning from two primary sources: purposeful action and our relationships. 
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When the festive season isn’t as “wonderful” as it When the festive season isn’t as “wonderful” as it looks…what then?
If this time of year feels heavy or complicated, you are not alone.
The typical expectation:
picture-perfect gatherings, joy, harmony, connection.
The reality for many:
-Complex family dynamics, old tensions, emotional distance.
-Time with people you barely tolerate.
-Estranged relationships resurfacing.
-Financial pressure.
-Emotional fatigue.
-Trying to keep everyone happy.
This is a friendly reminder that you don’t have to perform perfection. You don’t have to meet every expectation. It doesn’t have to be perfect to matter.
Instead, let this season be honest, not idealised.

How can you stay connected to yourself and others even in a season of emotional extremes?
Here is what you can do:
You can
1.	set gentle boundaries (what are your non-negotiables this month?) 

2.	honour your energy (you need to keep track of your energy gains and energy drains) 

3.	choose where you show up (your vitality, your mental well-being, your time, your money is precious, be more discerning and selective with your resources)

4.	reconnect with what’s grounding (embrace habits, activities and rituals to refuel yourself)

What have I missed? 
What else are useful tips for navigating the complexities of the Festive season?
#selfcare #selfcompassionjourney
Sometimes the most meaningful gift is a shift in p Sometimes the most meaningful gift is a shift in perspective-
a new way of understanding yourself, your partner, or the relationships that matter most.

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Mostly, my generation and those before me focussed Mostly, my generation and those before me focussed on making an income, way more than we did making an impact. That is probably a big contributor to why the world is in that state it is. 
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