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“What do a plant and self-compassion have in com

“What do a plant and self-compassion have in common? 🌱 You’d be surprised …Watch this short reel to discover the answer
#bekindtoyourself

As a Relationship Architect 🛠️, I’m always

As a Relationship Architect 🛠️, I’m always searching for tools that help us build stronger connections—with ourselves and with others.
One practice that I’ve found truly transformative is Tara Brach’s “R.A.I.N” technique— a simple yet powerful way to navigate difficult emotions and enhance emotional resilience. 🌿

Whether you’re looking to elevate your self-awareness or deepen the quality of your relationships, the RAIN technique offers an accessible path toward more mindful, compassionate living.

Curious about how it works? Check out the infographic below to learn more! 📊👇 #SelfAwareness #Mindfulness #Leadership #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipArchitect

Wishing you a beautiful weekend 🌻

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The chapter Unity Needs a Purpose is in Part 2 of

The chapter Unity Needs a Purpose is in Part 2 of my book which explains that there are certain conditions required to co-create a thriving relationship. In this extract, I am exploring 3 behaviors that will most surely destroy the wellbeing and health of your relationship.
Uncomplicated Love is available in the link above ☝️

#sundayreflections❤️ In our pursuit of growt

#sundayreflections❤️

In our pursuit of growth and success, we often hold ourselves to high standards. But self-compassion is key to sustaining long-term progress. It’s the gentle voice that reminds us that imperfection is part of the journey—and that being kind to ourselves is not selfish or self-absorbed, but essential to our well-being.

📝 Take a moment to reflect and journal on these questions:

- How do I speak to myself when I make a mistake?
- What would I say to a friend in the same situation?
- Where in my life am I being too hard on myself?
- How can I offer myself the grace and kindness I extend to others?

Remember, being compassionate toward yourself is not a detour but part of the path to becoming your best self.

To build on last month’s conversations about ‘

To build on last month’s conversations about ‘Evolving Through Transition’, it feels fitting to have this month’s theme focus on ‘Self-Compassion’.

The image I’m sharing is a metaphor for “The Forest Within”. Just as a forest ecosystem supports diverse life, self-compassion nurtures the different parts of ourselves—our mind, body, and emotions—allowing us to thrive.

If you’d like to explore this further, I’m sharing some top thought leaders on the topic of self-compassion, mindfulness, emotional well-being, and self-care.
🌻Dr. Kristin Neff
Key Concept: Neff developed the three elements of self-compassion: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

🌻Jack Kornfield
Kornfield’s approach blends Eastern spiritual traditions with Western psychology, focusing on self-kindness as a means of inner peace.

🌻Brené Brown
Key Concept: Brown talks about self-compassion in relation to vulnerability, urging people to be kinder to themselves in their moments of struggle and imperfection.

🌻Sharon Salzberg
Key Concept: Salzberg teaches that compassion, including self-compassion, is a practice that can be cultivated to improve emotional and mental health.

🌻Pema Chödrön
Key Concept: Chödrön promotes the practice of “loving-kindness” as a key component of self-compassion, teaching how to embrace life’s discomforts with care.

🌻Rick Hanson
Key Concept: Hanson integrates self-compassion with neuroscience, showing how self-kindness can help create lasting changes in the brain for well-being.

These thought leaders bring a wide range of perspectives—from psychology and neuroscience to spiritual teachings—all emphasizing the transformative power of self-compassion.
You might have noticed that Tara Brach isn’t on this list. I’ll be featuring her useful framework (R.A.I.N) in my next post.
Did I miss anyone else you think we could benefit from on this topic?

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